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Man, I forgot!

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How much I fucking love Al Green(‘s music). I think I need an outfit like this…

If this does not kill you, don’t talk to me…

http://www.last.fm/music/Al+Green/_/Here+I+Am+(Come+and+Take+Me)

Vintage Veronica

No, these are not links to me wearing vintage lingerie. Pervert.

Perhaps some of you who have only just started reading my blog haven’t had the time (tsk! tsk!) to read all of it, so here are a few of my favorites from 2008. Click and enjoy!

A childhood revelation

My view of what happened at the Hidden Chamber

On coffee choices

My first time at a stripclub

xoxo.

Psychological Ethics and Taking Responsibility…

I am a firm believer that BDSM can be therapeutic. Anyone who’s been in the scene for long enough has witnessed the cathartic benefits of playing with an understanding partner. I’ve always considered myself someone who is extremely open-minded when it comes to people exploring the darker aspects of their psychology. And I truly think that role playing these aspects can enable one to hold this darkness up in order for it to be examined, felt, accepted, and possibly transcended (if that is the goal).

However, recently I had to turn down a session in which the crux of our interaction would be me telling him that he is worthless. Worthless in reality, worthless because he truly believes that he can never please a woman, worthless because he’s never had a lasting relationship, and because he is a failure in his professional life. He has been playing for 25 years, and apparently, no one has EVER asked him why he needs this said/done to him.

I also turned it down because he had some weird notion that a woman could not be dominant unless she was a shrewd, unfeeling businesswoman (as is his former Domme, according to him). However, he seemed to have a bit of ambivalence about this, because she was “all about the money, and nothing else”, so he wanted to find someone less like that. Hence, his appeal to me.

I came away from our little chat feeling very confused, and very sad. Shit, I even cried.

Is there some humiliation aspect that I’m simply not understanding? Or has BDSM actually reinforced the negative views this man has of himself? On the one hand, I tend to believe it has been detrimental, but on the other, also feel like he should have taken responsibility for his perceived shortcomings and gotten psychological help.

We left the meeting with each of us welcoming the other to keep in touch.

What does everyone think? I’m at a loss.

xoxo.

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Brassai and the underground of times past…

I think we can all be in agreement that I really enjoy memorabilia which shows a dark or perverted side of life during time periods in which it was very, very daring to be kinky, transsexual, homosexual, a nudist, or any other kind of “other”. I am fascinated by people who seemed to have transcended the very strict rules of the day, and even risked their entire lives, because they perhaps needed (?) to express a different side of themselves. It makes me really thankful that I live in the time period that I do (despite our various hardships), but yet, at the same time, makes me curious about (and possibly a bit romantic toward) a time when social repression was ubiquitous. I admire these characters, and wish there was more of a document of their existence. Some of the photos may not look that shocking, but remember that these photos were taken in the 30’s, when it was scandal to even see a woman’s knees.

It’s not about the activity!!

Time and time again, I get asked, “Mistress, what would you like to do to me?” “Mistress, what is your favorite thing to do?”

And my answer is that it depends on the other person and my mood. I don’t blindly go around wishing one thing would happen all the time. That’s boring. And unimaginative.

There are some things that I sit back and think, wow, I really do need more of that in my life, re: kidnapping.

Moderating like a motherfucker…

In addition to Irene’s FemDom Interview Forum, I am now also helping to moderate the fledgling forum at Club Dom, which you may find here:

Club Dom Forum

Come over and test the waters! I promise I won’t try to drown you… unless I feel like it.

xoxo

Fuck the CW and the “confidentiality” they rode in on…

A few days ago, I received an email from some wannabe television drone for some show they are working on for that shitty network, the CW. This is the email correspondence between the drone and me. I will be updating this post as the emails progress (or deteriorate). Enjoy!!

FROM CW:

Good Afternoon,

I saw your profile on Eros-NY.com and I thought that you might be interested in the below opportunity.

The CW’s new docu-series, “Secrets,” is developing a new docu-reality series about young productive and high achieving women. But hidden beneath all the success are issues that are being kept secret.

Do you have a secret addiction or obsession that’s forcing you to live a double life? We want to know your stories.

We are looking to cast women between the ages of 18 and 30 who have a very active sex life. The story will be told from your perspective, your words, your life.

If you’d like to participate in this documentary series please visit our casting website at http://cwsecrets.com/application.html and please mention that H referred you so that we can prioritize your application

Thanks! And I hope to hear from you soon!

***All applications and inquiries are confidential.

~ H (I am leaving their name confidential for obvious reasons)

FROM ME:

Hi H,

I appreciate the offer, but am not secretive or ashamed of what I do for a living.

Good luck finding subjects.

Sincerely,

Veronica

FROM CW CASTING:

Hi Veronica,

Thank you for getting back to me – If you are willing to share your story we would love to hear about it – please check out our casting website at www.cwsecrets.com and take a look at the producing team that you would work with if you are cast for this production as have over 20 years of tv production experience. If you have any further questions, please feel free to email us at casting@cwsecrets.com

Again, thank you for your response, and I look forward to possibly hearing from you again!

FROM ME:

Again, as I told you, I do not keep my “alternative lifestyle” a secret from anyone, so would not be a good fit for your exploitative show.

In the future, it might behoove you to read people’s emails before sending a (grammatically incorrect) response. You might even get thoughtful, intelligent people to audition for you! Although, that’s not really what you’re looking for, is it?

Regards,

Veronica

*** I mean, seriously. Women between the ages of 18 and 30 with a “very active sex life”? You mean motherfucking prostitutes? Sex-addicted women? Dominatrices? Forgive me if I’m wrong (I’m not) but most prostitutes don’t consider their work part of their “sex life”. Neither do most dominatrices. It’s kinda pathetic if you do, actually. Automatically, also, I’m supposed be hiding what I do? How is that? Eh, I shouldn’t be surprised that a casting gopher has no idea what they’re looking for or how to approach people. It is television, afterall. ***

I am a foot nudist!!

Love, Laughter, and Truth (Bill Hicks)

In my mind, he was the greatest stand-up comedian of all time. He died on this date in 1994 from pancreatic cancer. He was only 32. Here’s a collection of some of my favorite bits:

The quality of this first video is low, but the content is great because he’s performing at the 1990 Adult Video Awards, which was obviously an audience with which he felt very at home. It is a great example of how seamlessly he could take a concept and base other jokes off of it, then refer back to the original idea, deepen it, and make it even funnier. Over and over. To understand what I mean, he asks the question in an earlier portion of the set (not shown): “Does ‘Do Not Disturb’ mean, ‘knock immediately’ in Vietnamese?” Referring to his hotel cleaning ladies. Enjoy.

For the record, I am a huge fan of the hairy bobbing man-ass.

This is a classic bit, for those who are unfamiliar with his work:

One of the reasons why I really like him is because he was more of a philosopher than a jokester funny man with a schtick, who spews one liners and aims to please. On the contrary, he often offended and alienated audiences with his ideas, which probably prevented him from achieving the mainstream success he deserved. To me, this attitude is what makes him so admirable. He said whatever he wanted, whenever he wanted- not to shock people, but to convey his sense of indignation, frustration, and love of a world for which he felt very ambivalent. (Alas! The tears are welling in my eyes as I write! Not)

Here he is in London, spewing his philosophy– or the way he ended many of his shows:

He wrote this right before he died:

“I left in love, in laughter, and in truth and wherever truth, love and laughter abide, I am there in spirit.”

Beautiful.

xoxo.

Mistress Wynter (Part One)

*** EDITED *** If you have not been able to listen to the interview, it’s because I am technically challenged, so have changed the format like seven times. Luckily, I have people around me who communicate with computers by typing instead of screaming at them, and understand what I’m saying when I refer to a file as a “dingy”. So, thank you to those people. Everything should be fine now. I hope. 2/19/10 xoxoxoxox

Below is an interview I did recently for the FemDom Interview Forum at The Scene with Mistress Wynter. It was really fun, and had to be broken into two parts because there is just far too much information for one sitting. We touch on topics such as how the femdom scene in NY has changed (for good or bad), why I’m so cute, and why the hell she loves Columbo so much (although I think she may have a convert). Just click here:

vn52-mono-1.mp3

Here is her website as well…

Mistress Wynter

***Thank you “Terri Gilliam” for helping me with the sound! Otherwise, my computer would be in pieces on the floor.***